Romantic Realism

Hey if Oprah and Dr. Phil can make good money on doing this kinda stuff, why shouldn't I try? I'm going to do a little thing every so often called, Romantic Realism. Just some tidbits that I've picked up over the years...

Is romance dead?
I like candy, diamonds and flowers as much as the next chick, but in 2004, does that equal romance? Back in the '50s that was the deal -- men went all out to woo women. But today... can we expect that? Modern, cosmopolitan women -- whether you're in a large city, a small town or an island -- need to realize that what you're expecting from our men may just be unrealistic.

Men, realize that women need romance in their lives. There's nothing wrong with sending her flowers out of the blue. Women, realize if we say we're 'independent' we need to act that way. Men shouldn't feel like they have to break the bank to show you how much they care.

Are you Ms. Right?
I'm tired of hearing women complain that all men are dogs, when some of these same chicks are chickenheads. If a woman doesn't have anything, doesn't have a pot to piss in and isn't planning to get one, but still thinks she should be with a multi-millionaire. Or the girl who is clearly bitter and dysfunctional and is really not ready or able to be in a real relationship with anyone, but is vex when men can fully see the problems. And we can't forget the desperate girl, who thinks every man is a potential husband.

We've all been these chicks at some point, but the sad part is that the vast majority of us are deluding ourselves. If you want to find Mr. Right, you have to be Ms. Right. Don't put all the blame on the men, some of us have our own issues we have to deal with.

Are looks the only thing you're interested in?
I don't look like Beyoncé. I don't look like Alicia Keys. I'm not a supermodel and most women aren't. Men meet great girls who don't look like video girls and have absolutely no interest in them. Oh, but when they meet a hotgirl -- it's done. But guess who's majorly surprised when she treats his average tail like scum. Looks are important, but only to a point. If you dash away a great average girl for a stupid beauty, that's on you, but don't complain.

Not all us look like Melyssa Ford and not all of you look like Boris Kodjoe, so be realistic about it. We all know looks fade, but personality and character will last a lifetime.